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Sociological Insight from the pages of Think Magazine.
"THE CREATIVE ACT IS NOT PURE. HISTORY EVIDENCES IT. SOCIOLOGY EXTRACTS IT." - Nadine Gordimer
Thinky is always interested in the scientific or systematic study of human societies, whether this involves sitting them down on the couch for analysis, or just getting them shit faced drunk and leaving them passed out naked and drunk in some foreign country...
An intervention is usually used as a last resort by people that want to help a close friend or family member that needs help with an addiction. It is often the case that the person with the addiction is in denial, therefore people feel that they must confront the issue head on. Interventions are usually stage for a number of reasons; alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling addiction and any number of other addictions. Nearly all addicted people can be helped by interventions, the addiction is usually effecting not only themselves but also their family and friends. Interventions are not straight forward, they will be a difficult process and may cause emotional pain for the person that is addicted. They are however not a negative action, the main aim is to help someone to overcome their addiction and get their life back on track. Whilst it might feel difficult at the time, the result that you are aiming for is well worth the emotional stress that everyone will have to endure. If you are looking for health professionals or advice on what to do then you should go to iAddiction.com for some help. Here is a list of steps to follow when staging an intervention.
1. You should have a meeting, but exclude the individual that is addicted, to talk through your plan and also to listen to everyone's concerns and feelings about the whole process. Talking things through will always make everyone feel more at ease.
2. Before you stage the intervention you should seek advice and guidance from a professional. Go and speak to a therapist or a counsellor, these people are trained and experienced in dealing with this issue, they will be able to help you in this testing process.
3. When you are with the professional you should do a 'dry run' of the intervention, a rehearsal is always a very good idea. This will help you to practice dealing with the objections that the addicted person will bring up when you stage the intervention. It will also help you to remain calm during the intervention and help you prepare for the reactions that are to follow.
4. You should compile a list as a group about the actions or behaviour of the addicted person, this list should consist of everything that you can no longer bear or will tolerate.
5. The next list you should compile should be a list of everything that has already been lost due to the addiction and everything that people stand to lose if the addiction continues, this could include, money, jobs, relationships and possessions.
6. You should now let the addicted person know what the consequences will be if they continue with their addiction. You should make a list of actions and the consequences that will follow if certain things keep happening.
7. You must follow through with every consequence on the list, there is no point in having a list if you do not follow through with the action/threat that you already listed.
8. Seek professional help - This is when you can all go to see a therapist together. It is best that everyone involved goes together so that you can talk through all of your problems. The addicted person needs to know the pain that is being cause by their actions.
9. Organise treatment for the addicted person. This is one of the final steps, and with all going well the treatment will be a success and the addiction will stop with the help of trained professionals.Add a comment Add a comment
The landscape of the dating world has been changing in recent years. The way we meet potential partners is very different, particularly with the influx of online dating websites allowing us to meet new people easily. Some people even approach a company such as TheCircle to consult a psychic for help with finding love. Just as the way we meet people has changed, so too has the expectations of the ‘first date’. Although for many people, a drink in a bar or a meal in a nice restaurant is still a popular option, more and more people are opting for something a little different.
Opting for an ‘experience’ day can make for a memorable first date. There are several companies which provide experience days so you can go for a hot air balloon rides, cocktail making classes or even a bungee jump to name but a few! Of course, it depends on what the interests of your date are, but it can be a great way to get to know each other and try something new.
Another fun idea is to pretend to be tourists and explore a new city! If you and your date live in different places, you could perhaps agree to meet somewhere in the middle and explore the city together. That way you can take in the culture and the sights in a relaxed way and in a neutral environment. It’s a good way of finding things you have in common, for example if you both love art galleries or the theatre. You can also incorporate the classic lunch in a good restaurant into your date – it’s difficult to go wrong with a nice meal!
Perhaps you could opt for a half and half date. One person plans the first half of the date, maybe a museum or a movie trip and one person plans the second half, which could be the meal and tickets to a music concert. That way you get the best of both worlds.
Whatever you decide to do, make sure it’s something interesting and enjoyable where you can both get to know each other. Obviously it depends how well you know each other to begin with on how elaborate you want your first date to be, but thinking outside the box is usually a winner!
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